Closing The Gates Ceremony ~ A Postpartum Ritual of Resurrecting Motherhood

Resurrecting Sacred Motherhood

 

Let’s get into some SWEET TALK for… new Mama Bee’s, from a holistic postpartum care provider.
I want to tell that you it is ok to go slow. To be yourself. Self care is so much more than getting dressed and putting on makeup – certainly not on the account of postpartum healing.

When you open the door with a smile, I see you are tired. You walk slowly and carefully. I am excited to offer you the best postpartum care. I notice you are dressed, you’re wearing makeup. I won’t assume that it’s for me. But I am curious of the benefit? You look pretty, but I can sense what you are feeling over all. Not just what I see on the surface.

I sit and do my overall energy scan, before we get into the services I am here to offer. I am conscious of the time we will spend together. So we make a list of visits that will follow this one. There are a million things that I want to say to you. But I fall back and listen to what you have to say, because I know that you need to be heard.

I want to tell that you that becoming a mother was the best decision you could have ever made. At the same time, I don’t want to assume. I want to tell you that I know you haven’t been feeling sexy, or connected to your new self, but go with the flow. That the process is slow and easy. You will find your “sweet spot.” I know you feel as if you have the weight of the world on top of you after giving birth. I am here to tell you, this too will pass. None of us mamas could have done it, without the contrast of what time teaches us, as we surrender to our healing.

I listen to you talk to me about your breastfeeding goals. I want to tell you that, for some women and babies, it is the best decision you will make in your entire life. I also want to tell you that it is great to see the vision now because, it’s important and will reap huge benefits in few years’ time. Breastfed is best, regardless of how.
I want to tell you that motherhood in all its glory is hard. But it doesn’t have to be. It is the most time tested event you will encounter and it is an all-encompassing journey. I want to tell you that in between the journey, there will peaks and valleys. There will be moments of gratitude and there will be times of questioning doubt.

During our time together, I will help you find your truth in a beautiful closing ceremony. As you mourn the death of the woman you once were before, your old life without a baby, we will walk together and resurrect your call to motherhood. You will have moments when you are overwhelmed and need time for yourself. Don’t feel guilty for showing up as your new self. This is perfectly normal.

I want to tell you that a small glass of red wine is really ok. It the best medicine when you need to reset your ideas about your new role. Lemme tell you, everything feels better after venting to friends over a glass of Sweet Red or Petite Chocolate – never feel guilty about that.

You apologise for the mess, the piles of washing to do. I want to tell you that we live in our houses. That is what makes home feel like a home. The activity of living. I want to tell you that the housework can wait or be delegated to a good friend of family member you can trust. Only the needs of you and baby needs tending to at this moment and it can’t wait.

Follow what your innate instructions tell you to do: hold, cuddle, kiss, and feed your sweet baby as much as you can, because secure babies turn into mentally and emotionally sound toddlers. You know what’s best for your baby.

What I really want to tell you is that some of Mama Bee’s don’t even know the importance of postpartum care, but you did. You invested for yourself and your baby. Your home is warm and cozy. When I knock on the door, I feel a wave of sacred life covering your home. Just from the vision that you have about the life you want to live, I feel blessed to be a witness.

Soon, you won’t need to see me very often and, for that, I am grateful. Because you will be basking in the SWEET honey like a real Bee Goddess, running your hive. Yet please know that I am here if you need me, every step of the way. You got this, Queen!


Since you’re in the Hive…

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Thank you Honey.

Thank you Honey.

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