I am only going to talk about America in this blog post because, this is where I live. The medical model of maternal health is suspended in a very interesting culture. From the medical industry, to the TV screen, we see childbirth as this high anxiety medical emergency. This is a perfect symbol of our historical and traumatic culture.
I am not just hypothetically speaking here. As a pregnant woman who also owns a perinatal health consulting business, I am going to to share my professional expertise and experiences through observation and storytelling.
Some of those who read this blog post may feel indifferent, but I am not here to convince anybody… I am here for those who resonate with what is shared here today. These are my tribe.
15.) MOST MEDICAL PRACTITIONERS WANT TO BE IN FULL CONTROL OF YOUR BIRTH EXPERIENCE AND YOU LET THEM
14.) CHILDBIRTH IS A VARIABLE EXPERIENCE FROM WOMAN TO WOMAN AND WHRE BIRTH IS YOUR OWN YOUR EXPERIENCE
13.) DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE. WE HAVE TO STOP BEING BRAINWASHED INTO THE NARRATIVE THAT MAKES THE BLACK FAMILY INVALUABLE TO THE CHILDBEARING COMMUNITY
12.) EVERY PREGNANT WOMAN NEEDS TO TAP INTO HER ALTER EGO. IF SHE BELIEVES SHE IS SOMEONE MORE POWERFUL THAN THE PERSON SHE IS… SHE MIGHT SUCCEED IN CONTROLLING HER OWN BIRTH
11.) HOMEBIRTH IS NOT NEW AND IS SAFER THAN A HOSPITAL BIRTH FOR HEALTHY WOMEN NO MATTER HOW MANY PEOPLE SPEAK AGAINST IT
10.) MOST IMAGES OF CHILDBIRTH SHOW CHILDBIRTH AS A PAINFUL AND HORRIFIC EVENT WHEN PAIN AND TRAUMA ARE A CHOICE
9.) POSTPARTUM CARE IS RARELY SPOKEN OF IN PERINATAL HEALTH BECAUSE SOCIETY DOES NOT RESPECT THE ART OF HEALING, BONDING, AND RECOVERY TIME FOR MOTHER, BABY, AND FATHER
8.) MOST PEOPLE DON’T RESPECT HOW PRIVATE THE ACT OF CHILDBIRTH IS. THE SAME WAY YOU ARE PRIVATE ABOUT WHEN YOU ARE INTIMATE WITH YOUR PARTNER IS THE SAME PRIVACY YOU NEED WHEN GIVING BIRTH
7.) LETTING THE CONTROVERSY OF THE BIRTH WORLD INFLUENCE YOUR DECISIONS IS NOT EASY TO ESCAPE WHEN YOU MAKE THE MISTAKE OF GIVING A FUNK ABOUT SOMEONE ELSES REALITY
6.) THERE ARE MORE DOCUMENTS, MEDIA, AND IMAGERY THAT SUPPORTS FEAR THAN SAFE AND POSITIVE BIRTH OUTCOMES EVEN WHEN OVER 70% OF WOMEN HAVE POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
5.) THE SERENA WILLIAMS STORY IS ONE OF MANY THAT SHOULD SHOW US IT IS NOT JUST POOR, LOW-INCOME COMMUNITIES THAT ARE AT RISK OF ADVERSE OUTCOMES
4.) SHARING THE SAME NARRATIVE FOR BLACK WOMEN DEVALUES THEM AND IS A PERPETUATION OF ENDANGERMENT TO BLACK WOMEN
3.) WE HAVE LET THE MEDICAL INSTITUTION BRAND BLACK PEOPLE AS THE MOST UNHEALTHY POPULATION ON THE PLANET
2.) IT IS OK TO KEEP YOUR PREGNANCY A SECRET UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO REVEAL IT TO THE PUBLIC
1.) THE BEST WAY TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM POOR AND TRAUMATIC OUTCOMES IS TO BECOME YOUR OWN PRACTITIONER
I hope that my suggestive language is as influential as the dangerous propaganda that most have personified in preconception, pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum care. When it all boils down to it… We are the Queen Bee’s…The Bee Goddess’s… And we run the hive.
RL ~ The Queen Bee